As we approach the 2017 Holiday Season, I find myself increasingly grateful to Gus. Like many people it’s a time of mixed feelings, across the spectrum, terrific, happy and clear, also sadness, memories of time past which I’d like a do over.
Ellie turned thirteen in October, she aged so fast it was blinding. She has hard arthritis and sees a terrific regular vet and now has an East/West vet where she gets acupuncture, water therapy and some shots to increase her blood flow all over.
Very recently we discovered a mass, not sure if it’s cancer or some benign lump, we did an ultra sound. At this time I brought Gus into the picture and asked him if he would help both of us out. We all had a very hard and real discussion about our reality and decisions to be made.
I have had to do a lot of hard work on my own situation, so that helped a lot. I had to think about who’s needs would be getting met most, mine or hers? At 13 it would be my needs more then hers. I love her desperately and want her to live forever. I knew when my last Golden died at 8, if I got another one, I was also making an agreement to be responsible for Ellie’s whole life, including the end.
The ultra—sound didn’t give us a definitive answer, the next step would be fine
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